I say fast approaching, my birthday is actually at the end of February so I have a little while before I wave goodbye to my twenties. However, with how quickly this year has gone by it really feels as though it is around the corner.
I wanted to write this post today because it’s been a bit of a hot topic for me lately. A close friend of mine turned 30 this year and her other half will reach the milestone this coming January. In addition to them my boyfriend’s sister will be turning 30 just before me, (another February birthday) and it came up in conversation when we were out for dinner a few nights ago.
The same question is always asked: ‘how do you feel about it?’ and my answer for quite a while now has been that I’m not bothered but perhaps that will change when the time rolls around.
I always thought that turning 30 would be the age that would bother me. I would feel old etc. but now that it’s getting closer I’m really not feeling fazed. For me personally I think age is only an issue in relation to where I am at in my life. I remember feeling super touchy about turning 27 (random I know), but now I realise that the reason 27 bothered me was because I felt a little unfulfilled with where I was at in my life. As that year reached a close and I graduated uni I felt fine. The following couple of years saw my other half gain a promotion, us as a couple move into a new phase where we could think about buying a house, and then of course my daughter was born. All of these things have left me feeling comfortable in myself and my life in general and as a result I’m feeling fine about turning 30.
We haven’t yet found the house that we want to buy but I’m sure it’s only a matter of time, and if we manage to tick that off the list before my birthday then I think I will be even more relaxed about leaving my twenties behind.
It’s definitely a new phase though. My boyfriend’s sister told us a story of how she is working with an apprentice in her job and they had no idea what a floppy disc is! I had a similar experience when I discussed a song with a colleague that I had loved hearing on multiple drunken nights out, only for them to respond saying they had remembered it from their primary school leaving party…it stopped me in my tracks for a second I will admit. It reminded me that I’m not 18 anymore! But I’m ok with that because I actually wouldn’t trade my current setup for those days. I’m happy to stick to the odd night out rather than every weekend…I think my bank balance prefers it also!
It does feel a little strange to think that come the end of February I won’t ever be able to say that I am twenty something but then I can’t remember feeling weird when I turned twenty and could no longer say I was ‘something teen’ in age. Therefore, even if it did feel odd it obviously wasn’t for long because I would remember, and I’m sure that will be the case when I enter my thirties too.
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I know it’s a cliché but isn’t it true that age really is just a number? Ok, perhaps certain milestones like having your first legal drink or being able to learn to drive etc. make certain birthdays more monumental but that’s not the case with 30. What are you allowed to do at 30 that you couldn’t do at 29? Am I forgetting something? I really do think it will just be another day for me, another birthday. But at least I wont be pregnant for this one and able to mark the day with a glass of something bubbly!
So, overall I’m looking forward to it. And by it I mean my birthday in general, just like I do every year, but not because it’s a big one. Yes, I’ll do something special and I may use turning 30 as an excuse to have everyone make a fuss of me but it will be just that, an excuse. The reality is that I’m fine to say I’m 30 when the day arrives…it remains to be seen if that changes over the next few months.
How do you feel about big birthdays and growing older? Is it a big deal for you, for good or bad reasons? I would love to hear your thoughts!
Thanks for reading, I hope that you enjoyed!
Until the next time…Jess x