I’m 29. My birthday was at the end of February so yes, I am well into my final year of my twenties and fast approaching my thirtieth birthday. I was thinking about this recently and it got me considering ways in which I am different now to how I was in my early twenties. I always think of how I don’t feel any different, and it’s true, in some ways I don’t. But, in other ways I know that I do. Why? Well, because there are certain things that I do differently now versus then. So let me tell you what these things are and ask you to share your thoughts on them as well.
What I wear has certainly evolved throughout my twenties. I have always played it pretty safe with what I wear but I would definitely say that my clothing style has matured as the years have gone by. In my early twenties I thought only as far as do I like the item and is it available in my size. Now, however, I confess there have been many times where I have liked something but decided I’m too old to wear it. Unfortunately I also have the added worry of will it look okay on my body or not…I’m not immune from gaining weight like I used to be anymore! I don’t think about this too much but if I compare recent photos to photos up to ten years ago I can definitely see a change. I’m more likely to be found in a blouse and jeans nowadays rather than a slogan t-shirt. I like my style now though and I think it works for me so this isn’t a bad change in my opinion.
I have always enjoyed socialising and that hasn’t changed as I have got older but the manner in which I socialise has. Back then it would be a night out with too many drinks and stumbling home in the early hours. I’m still known to do this now and again but the occasions are few and far between. Instead I prefer a coffee date or a low key meal. It seems the partying is out of my system now.
This is a bit of a broad one I know. I was pretty happy to live paycheck to paycheck when I was younger. I saved money and I was always careful but I had no real plan or end goal in sight. Now, I’m far more scrupulous with my pennies. I’m thinking about the future for me and my family. I’m thinking about mortgages and life insurance and having some money put to the side in case the washing machine packs up etc.etc. These are considerations that have only become a priority in the last four or five years.
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I’m pretty lucky that I have never really struggled with my weight or had any serious health problems. However, as I get older I am more conscious of taking care of myself so I can continue to be as healthy as I am now. I’m not overly careful with my diet or my fitness, (lets face it, we could all do more right?) but I definitely try now where I didn’t before. Now I think about the choices I make and what impact they will have on my health when before it would be a matter of eat what I want and dance on a night out to get exercise.
I have multiple notebooks, planners, organisers…okay you get the idea. I like to be organised now, I like to jot down tasks and things that I need to remember and I love ticking anything off of one of my many lists. This is a fairly recent thing though. In my early twenties I was much more of a ‘go with the flow’ person and the thought of forgetting something and/or not having things in order didn’t bother me at all. Well, maybe it bothered me a bit if I’m completed honest but nowhere near as much. I’m less spontaneous in this way now, I think about what I should do first before what I want to do. I’m not sure if this is always the best approach, I don’t want to become too boring!
Twenty year old me was far less accepting of things than twenty nine year old me is. My attitude is much more ‘it is what it is’ now than it was before. I also accept that life isn’t always easy and that’s just the way it is and I have to make the best of it. Most importantly however, I have come to accept myself much more and realise that not everybody will like me and that’s okay, nobody is perfect, including me but it’s alright.
I’m mainly referring to children here. If you had asked me even up to about two years ago about settling down and having a family I would have answered that it wasn’t for me. I was happy living just me and my boyfriend and I didn’t want or need anything else. However, something switched in me and made me really want a child. I don’t know if it was something in me or if it was related to how content I was (and still am) in my relationship but all of a sudden I was changing my mind from never having a child to seriously considering it. Fast forward to now and I have a beautiful newborn daughter. The me of my early twenties would be in serious shock to see me as a mother but it’s definitely the highlight of this decade for me!
I’m far less preoccupied by it now. I’m happy enough to throw my hair into a scrunchie and leave the house these days, but this is only a recent development. Before, even a trip to the supermarket would prompt the hair straighteners coming out, a full face of makeup etc. But not now. The only non negotiable element is filling in my eyebrows, (the curse of overplucking as a teen!) and when that’s done I’m good to go. Don’t get me wrong I love makeup and I still use it a lot but where I would literally not leave the house without it before, now I am more than happy to go a week without wearing it because, who cares! I wear makeup for me and if there is a day where I don’t want to then irrelevant of where I am going, I wont bother. If you had told me a few years ago that this would be my current opinion I would have fallen down laughing but it seems a lot can change from twenty to twenty nine.
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But not everything changes. I’m still me. So is there anything that has remained the same as when I was twenty? Yes, a few things…
Living like a student.
I’m mainly talking about failing to plan meals and avoiding a weekly shop. In our house it is an empty fridge and buying day to day. It doesn’t matter how many times we say that we will do a weekly shop, it just never happens and I don’t think it ever will. The only guarantee is that there will be milk and coffee available because that is one addiction that isn’t going away anytime soon! It’s not just food though, it’s bedtimes and routines as well. This could be because of the shift work jobs that myself and my other half have but much like my twenty year old self I still eat at random times (dinner at 10pm anyone?) and I still go to bed too late and function off very little sleep. I call it a lack of routine but perhaps it just is our routine. It’s not served us too badly up until now so I’m not overly concerned. I also can’t see it changing anytime soon so it’s just as well that I’m okay with it.
When I told some friends about writing this post and asked them what changes they had noticed as they moved through their twenties the most popular answer was cleaning. As in, they didn’t bother with it before but now they are somewhat obsessed. This isn’t the case for me though. I have always been obsessed with keeping a clean and tidy home. Even as a child I would help out with vacuuming and dusting and washing the dishes etc. I actually really enjoy cleaning and I definitely enjoy the look of my home just after I have cleaned so this is one element that may change for a lot of people but not for me.
Another popular choice when I discussed this topic. A lot of my friends said that they have come to terms with the fact that any unrealised ambitions are probably not going to materialise for them. I don’t agree however. I have lots of personal and professional ambitions that I am yet to achieve but I’m not giving up. These ambitions are the same as they were when I turned twenty and I don’t care how long it takes or how much effort is required I’m going to keep working towards them. I’m not ready to accept that they wont happen.
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What are your thoughts on this? Have you ever considered what has changed for you from the start of one decade to the end? If so, what did you discover? I would love to hear your thoughts!
Thanks for reading, I hope that you enjoyed!
Until the next time…Jess x