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Is it anti-social to look forward to some time alone?

Maureen Corrigan quote

Sometimes you read something and it just speaks to you doesn’t it? A simple sentence or phrase that somebody else has spoken but you feel as though the words could have come from your mouth. This is how I felt when I read the quote above.

I love socialising, I crave quality time making memories with my favourite people but somewhere nearby lurks my inner loner, that side of me that wants to be by myself again. I love ‘me time’! I always have, and I suspect that I always will. I suppose what I am admitting to is that as happy and comfortable as I am in a group of people there is always an element of conflict, a part of me that looks forward to getting some time to myself afterwards. Would some people accuse me of being anti-social? Possibly. But I’m not. I would never turn down an opportunity to spend time with my family and friends and I always have fun with other people but that doesn’t mean that I don’t look forward to a bit of quiet time, just me and a book, because I do.

I don’t feel guilty about this because I don’t believe that I should. I think as long as I am present and invested in the people that I am with then it is completely fine for me to look forward to my down time afterwards. Everybody has something that they need to decompress, to relax and unwind and mine is sitting quietly with a book. So, I don’t think I’m selfish or ungrateful, and if you relate to the quote as well I don’t think that you are either. We’re all different, and as I say, as long as it doesn’t compromise the effort that you make with those close to you then it is more than okay to look forward to some alone time afterwards. Do you agree with this?

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There are some people in my life that I can see are completely opposite to me. I know that they struggle if they are on their own, they need people around them at all times to feel fulfilled. I sympathise with these people because I recognise that it must be hard to feel this way. I think I’m lucky that I am not only okay to be alone but that I actually enjoy it because the alternative must be pretty difficult!

What are your thoughts on this? Do you find yourself looking forward to some alone time when you are socialising? Or, are you somebody that craves company all the time?

Whatever your thoughts and opinions I would love to hear!

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3 thoughts on “Is it anti-social to look forward to some time alone?

  1. I’m very antisocial, I always prefer alone time (reading, writing, crafting) to being with anyone. It can be very awkward at times but I think people have got used to that’s how I am! Socialising is exhausting and it’s perfectly reasonable to have a break and be on your own to recharge 🙂

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    1. That’s a great way of putting it…alone time can be just what somebody needs to recharge. When it’s looked at in that way it is taking care of yourself rather than being antisocial or selfish or any other negative spin that somebody may put on it.

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